In Defence Of Being A Homebody, A Lone Wolf And Enjoying Time By Yourself
Now that we're in the cold season that means that it's perfectly acceptable to stay at home and not want to leave the house. And as an all year round homebody, I'm so on board with this. I think I realised at somewhat of a young age that I really loved being at home and nothing makes me quite as happy as being in my own living space with my dog of course. But so often being a homebody can be seen as a little bit of a boring thing but I don't think that at all and the same goes for being a lone wolf and enjoying time by yourself. So here a little post in defence of being all those things...
BEING AT HOME ISN'T BORING
It's all too easy to believe that being at home is really boring and all you do is either housework or lounge in front of the TV. Staying in doesn't mean you have to miss out on things at all and when you get your friends involved you can have a really awesome time. Some of my favourite things to do at home are;
- Have a pamper session for my favourite beauty products.
- Work on personal projects.
- Board games.
- Organise [not many people's idea of fun but I adore it].
- Play around with beauty products.
- Read my favourite blogs.
BEING A LONE WOLF DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE WEIRD
I'll hold my hands up and admit that in the past I've seen people on their own and almost felt a sense of pity for them. And I think it's something that we're conditioned to believe that if we see somebody by themselves that it's never for a positive reason. But over the years, I've actually started to understand hanging out by yourself can be a really good thing. It's so strange that it's not something that is encouraged more because being comfortable in your own company is so, so important. For so long I used to hate spending time on myself and would do anything to avoid it but now it's something I really treasure and look forward to.
BEING ALONE DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE LONELY
Like I mentioned earlier, it's almost like we're conditioned to believe that if we see someone alone it must be for a negative reason but that is so rarely the case. Spending time by yourself doesn't always have to mean that you're lonely and hate the fact that you are by yourself. Infact, so often people enjoy going out and pottering around doing their own thing. Going shopping by myself is one of my savoured activities because you never have to worry about anyone else when you're pondering another striped top. So often I find that when I feel the loneliest is when I'm surrounded by a huge group of people, and it may be a cliche but that's probably the case for most of us.
BEING ALONE IS THE WAY SOME PEOPLE THRIVE
It took me a really long time to realise that it's completely normal to thrive in a different way from other people. For me, I'm a true introvert and when I'm around a lot of people I find myself becoming absolutely exhausted. Being an introvert when I was a teen wasn't something that was ever discussed and you were always considered a bit weird if you didn't have a huge group of friends. I work and function so much better when I have the space to be by myself so it's something that I make sure that I have, feeling mentally and physically drained from forcing myself to be around people when I don't need to be isn't doing them or myself any good. And if that's not the way that you get your energy then it can be hard to understand and I still find it hard to comprehend how people thrive in a busy noisy environment but they do and it's ok that I don't.
BEING A HOMEBODY IS A GREAT WAY TO SAVE
One of the biggest things that pushed me into being a little bit of a homebody was just simply not having the funds to go out and spend lots of money on food or experiences. And when you haven't got a tonne of money or you're trying to save up for something then it can be such a good way to do it. Like I mentioned staying in doesn't have to be boring and now I see so many people say that they prefer it. Of course, because it's cold now then the heating and lights may have to go on but that's bound to be cheaper than a meal out. And you can still see your friends and have a good time by staying in, doesn't matter how old you are there is always an occasion for a good game of monopoly or an evening of putting the world to rights.
AND FINALLY, HAVING A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF IS THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE YOU CAN HAVE
It's not until now that I've seen people advocate more for having a positive relationship with yourself. And it wasn't something that I ever gave much thought when I was a teenager but the more that I've grown up and spend time on my own I realise just how important it is to have a positive relationship with myself. People come and go but you are the person that you are always with and when you can't stand being alone or being with just yourself it's not good. And it takes a lot of time to build a happy and healthy relationship with yourself, it doesn't just happen overnight and it takes years but it's one of the best things you can work on for yourself and your long-term happiness. You don't have to believe you're the worlds best human by any means but you can always appreciate and love yourself a little more.
Are you a homebody or a lonewolf?