The topic of failure isn't a nice one. As someone who in general has a lot of pride. I know how difficult it can be to admit something isn't quite going my way. But when something doesn't work out for someone and they take the courage to share it. Whether it be online or in real life it can have such a huge impact on our own life. Of course, hearing about people's successes is incredible and always inspiring. But sometimes their failures can be just as inspiring too. Here are some of the best lessons I've learnt from failing.
Whilst it's awesome when everything goes our way. It can be easy to take things for granted and not realise their true value. When something doesn't work out. And you've poured your heart and soul into it. It's crushing. And there is no way of hiding that. But when you ride of the sea of constant success. When something doesn't work out it might be a crash but it's one that you can humble you. Being humble is something that is so valuable in life.
WE TAKE THE BIGGEST LESSONS FROM THE HARDEST FALLS
Even though failure is tough to deal with at the time. And it can be crushing and completely un-motivating. The lessons that you can take from that failure are invaluable. Even if you don't realise the things that you took from the experience until years later. It still makes them incredibly value.
IT CAN BE A BLESSING IN DISGUISE
At the time of failure. It will never feel like it but by something not working out it can be a blessing in disguise. The phrase 'everything happens for a reason' can be pretty infuriating. Especially when you're going through the process of working through something that has failed. But when one door closes it can open 5 more. And even though it might not be right away. More often than not something there is always something positive that can come from something else not working out.
WE ALL DEAL WITH IT
Whilst people don't like to share their failures. It's something that we all deal with at some point or another. No-one enjoys looking vulnerable in fear of looking weak or lazy. We're all pretty proud human beings. When something fails. It's probably not because we didn't work hard enough and give it our all. Often it's linked to something completely out of our control. But that doesn't make it feel any less lonely or disheartening. Remembering that it's something that we've all encountered from time to time is important.
IT'S NOT WHAT DEFINES YOU
Something I've come to truly understand recently is that things like our successes, failures, jobs, home, relationship don't define us. They're not what make us who we are. So we should stop defining our self-worth on those things. When something has failed in your life it doesn't make you as a human a failure. And whilst it's incredibly difficult to separate the two feelings it's integral to do so.