Overcoming Shyness

I've always been a shy person. Ever since childhood it's something that has always has been a big part of my personality and it still is now. Even though I've come a long way over the years it's still something that I deal with on a day to basis. I'm super excited to dig deeper into the tough topic of shyness in today's post. 


SHY

shy

adjective

  1. nervous or timid in the company of other people.

IT'S OK TO BE SHY

Being shy is always something that I've been made to feel bad about. And it's taken me a really long time to realise that it's not a bad thing at all. So often shyness is misconstrued as rude, snobbish or stand offish and it's not the case. Just because you're shy it doesn't mean that you're not a nice person. It's just something that's part of your personality and it's ok not to be the loudest person in the room. 

ONE STEP AT A TIME

Whilst I don't think shyness is something that anybody ever completely gets over. It's something that gets easier to deal with as we get older. For me, the biggest thing that I struggle with is talking to people, whether that be in real life or on the phone. It fills me with fear but the more I do it the easier it becomes. Also, social situations when I don't know anyone can often be tough as I tend to shrink away. Whilst striking up a conversation can be incredibly daunting once you've done it once you know you can do it again. These are the types of situations where you just have to ask yourself 'what's the worst that can happen?'. And more than likely nothing detrimental will come from that situation. 

BEING SHY AND BEING INTROVERTED

When I started to learn about introverts and extroverts. I always thought that if you were shy you would be an introvert but that's not true. I'm an introvert and I'm shy but some of my closest friends are introverted but they're bold and outgoing. Even though it might seem like the two would go hand in hand it's not always the case. 

IT GETS EASIER WHEN YOU GET OLDER

This is something that I wish I'd known when I was in my teens, especially during school. I so desperately wanted to shake away my shyness and feel more confident. But as I've got older it's something that's got so much easier to deal with and it's not such a prominent part of my personality. I've also embraced that it's just part of me and it's not a bad thing like people make out. So if you're at a time in your life when you feel like shyness is ruling everything that you do. Just know that it does get easier and it's never something to be embarrassed about. And of course, you're never alone. 


I'd love to know your thoughts on shyness

R x

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