The art of not giving a damn what other people think is a long and complex one. Although the older I get the easier it becomes, or maybe I'm just worrying about so much more so I'm not as focused on it? When I think about all the time I've wasted on worrying myself to the point of illness because I was obsessed with what other people were thinking I just think why did I waste my time?! So from one girl who's spent her life worrying about everything you can possibly think of to another here are few ways to that might help you stop caring so much.
IT'S MUCH EASIER SAID THAN DONE & IT TAKES TIME
If you're someone who worries and overthinks anything in life it's really hard to stop and realistically no-one enjoys worrying that much, it's exhausting. But it's so much easier said than done. I know how hard to it is to change your thought patterns and subsequently stop caring so much. If there is one thing that I know to be true is that in general when you get older it does get easier but it still takes time.
THE LESS YOU CARE ABOUT STRANGERS THE LESS YOU CARE ABOUT THEIR OPINIONS
Whilst I know this sounds pretty heartless and cruel, it's not. It's normal to follow people we don't know on social media which means it's also pretty easy to get in a strange judgement cycle of their lives. I used to be incredibly judgemental and it's such an awful mindset to have because it doesn't make you any happier, quite the opposite infact. Even though I love following people online whether I know them or not I try not to immerse myself in their life too much. I'm a big believer that concerning yourself with what you're most loved ones think rather than complete strangers do. As your loved ones are much more likely to want the best for you than a complete stranger.
WHERE THERE ARE PEOPLE THERE IS JUDGEMENT
No matter what we do in life, even if we tick off all the stereotypical standard life goals there will still be judgement. It's pretty normal and natural as it's something that we all do but it's what we do with those judgements that matter. In real life, it's really rare that we're confronted with other peoples judgement but on the internet, it's entirely different. We have to face them on a daily basis which leads me onto my next point.
HAVE A PROTECTIVE BUBBLE
Having a little bubble that you put yourself in especially online isn't a bad thing. It doesn't mean you're ignorant or live in a dream world, we don't have to consume absolutely everything. Purging your social media of people who you know are particularly negative and cruel is incredibly liberating, the internet is something that should be enjoyable not full of stress and tension. Far too often I've found myself consuming things online that have had a really a really negative effect on my day and made me second guess myself and I've left just questioning why? You're in control of what you see with a lot of things in life and purposely consuming negative and judgemental things that aren't at all necessary is a really good habit to get into.
WE CAN NEVER PLEASE EVERYONE
Living to please everyone else but yourself is truly exhausting and it never works because we all want different things in life. More often than not people are so consumed with their own lives that they're not thinking about what we're doing as much as we might think they are. Living a life that makes you happy as well as doing things like paying the bills and being responsible etc isn't as easy as it seems and that's what important to focus on rather the thoughts of complete strangers.
SOMEONE ELSES THOUGHTS ARE NOT YOUR REALITY
Of course, we all like to think that we can brush off someone being negative but it's never that easy. It stings and when you're someone who overthinks and worries a lot you can often turn those thoughts into something that they were never meant to be. But just because someone one might think or say cruel things about you it never makes them true or your reality. And it's really hard to think that because it seems easier to believe complete strangers over ourselves. But you're the only person who knows who you truly are and what kind of person you are.
Do you have any advice to stop caring what people think?
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