Posts on friendships are something I find super interesting as it's such a broad topic. Not having cookie cutter female friendships has always made me feel like a little bit of outsider as when I was teenager everything I read was so similar. Whilst I might not have those traditional tv worthy friendships I feel so strongly about having positive strong relationships with other females. Because together we can make awesome things happen but when we're against each other it can be a lonely world.
EMPOWERMENT & UNDERSTANDING
Having relationships with people of the opposite sex is awesome and some of my favourite people in the world are guys. However, personally, I don't think there is anything better than two females having an awesome relationship. Away from all the negativity and bitchiness that is predominant in friendships there are so many amazing things that you can go through with one another. Whilst I cannot stand the term 'girl talk' there are things that we as women can understand so much more. And often they might be completely trivial in the grand scheme of things but when someone is supporting you and cheerleading you on through them it can make all the difference in the world.
FIND YOUR TRIBE
Friendship groups don't have to be made up of a huge amount of people. Finding the people that you're most suited to isn't easy and it takes a lot of time. And what your personal tribe looks like might not be anything like those typical friendships that society pressures us to find. When we're younger and in education the relationships that we have with our peers are incredibly different to when we enter adulthood. It can be harder to find the people that we truly connect with. But this is where the internet plays a huge role in how we form our friendships now. It makes it so much easier to find people who might have similar interests you. Some of my favourite friendships have come from the online world. And they're not weird or creepy like they're made out to be.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO TALK EVERYDAY TO BE GREAT FRIENDS
When you're at school and you see your friends every day, it can be strange when you're not catching up on a daily basis. But as we grow up and have so much more to juggle it can be difficult to keep up with each other. Personally, I don't believe that to be really great friends you have to live in each other pockets. And even if you don't speak for a few weeks it doesn't take away from your relationship. Because even if you're not catching up as often as you'd like, just knowing that person is supporting you is incredible. Then when you do have the time to catch up with one another you have so much to talk about and that's an awesome feeling.
HAVING DIFFERENT OPINIONS IS AWESOME
Voicing your opinion when it differs from the vast majority or even just one person is scary. But it's how others respect those thoughts and feelings is so important. To have a great friendship you don't have to agree with each other in every single way. And it's all too easy to want to agree with everyone around you just to keep the peace and not offend anyone. But there is much that you can learn from not having the same thoughts as everyone else.
EVERY RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES WORK
It can be really easy to forget that friendships are also relationships and they require just as much effort. I'm sure we've all been in a situation where you're trying to make something work with someone. But because you're the only one making the effort the relationship is falling flat. I've always been a big believer that your friendships are just as important any as relationship that you're in. Because what you get from each one is incredibly different and they're all things that we crave in life. Of course, we're all busy and can never dedicate all our time to our friends but a quick call or text can be incredibly important for keeping things alive.
ONE GREAT FRIEND IS BETTER THAN A LOT OF FAKE FRIENDS
Whilst it might sound awesome to say that you have a lot of friends. It's not so great when those friends aren't actually there for you and don't give you any support. Quality > quantity is a great rule to apply when it comes to your friendships. Even if you just have that one person who supports you unconditionally it can enhance your life in so many ways. Rather than being surrounded by other people who don't quite understand you and would never be there for you in a time of need.