Often people say that we should say yes to everything that comes our way but lately I've learnt that sometimes it's more beneficial for us to say no than to constantly say yes. I like to please others, the amount of guilt I feel when I cannot do something for someone is incredible so it's rare that I say no even if it's not always in my favour. We probably all feel this sense of guilt sometimes and forget the importance of not letting the pressure to please others win over your own happiness.
We live in a world where we want to do and see everything and FOMO is a real thing. No one wants to feel they are missing out on anything, I remember the feeling all too well in school that if all my friends did something and I didn't I would feel so left out. Even if I wasn't all that fussed about the thing that they were doing I never wanted to say no to a social occasion. This need to please continued well into university, I would go on nights out even though I don't like loud places and after getting alcohol poisoning never fancied drinking again I would still go because I never wanted to say no I really don't want to.
Saying no is something that should be so straight forward but it's not. Personally I find it the most difficult to say no with work opportunities that come up, I feel like I should be taking everything that is coming my way and I'm sure we all feel like this within our careers. As much as I want to broaden my skills and my horizons I don't want to be a jack of all trades and sometimes when we take on work that we're not all that sure about it can detract from the work that we are really passionate about. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves of what we truly want and think about our values and goals as it's all too easy to adopt someone else's.
Only we know what makes us truly happy and what works for us and it's easy to forget that. If you know that by saying yes to something you're going to cause yourself distress and upset than is it really worth doing? No. It takes a lot of courage to say no and that's not easy to do if you're a timid person but more often than not nothing bad will happen and it's important to remember that when you're feeling the pressure to say yes.
What are your thoughts on saying no?