Anybody who reads this blog somewhat regularly will know that I'm a worrier. It's just who I am, it's part of my personality and it's never going to be something that I'm going to be able to rid of completely. But saying goodbye to the irrational silly worries has been a big thing for me and there are certain things that I've just had to try and get out of mind as much as possible as it was having a really bad effect on my mental state. As I know that I'm not the only worrier out there I thought I'd share some of the things that I've banned myself from worrying about recently.
WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK
I dread to think how much time I've wasted worrying about what other people think of me and my actions and it's such a waste of time. I can't say that I go through life entirely not giving a damn about what other people think but not getting so wound up if people think something that's either not true or unfair is something I've put a stop to. I can't and nor can anybody else control what other people think of us as much as we might like to as it's just not possible. Of course, it's a massive bruise to our egos that someone might not like us and what we do but we can't really do anything about it if we're just being ourselves and that doesn't align with them. We can't all get along and living a life just to please other people is such a massive disservice to ourselves and who we are to just try and make complete strangers happy. It's really good if we can make other people by just being who we are but it's not feasible for that to be everyone else.
When I was 21 all I used to do was think about my future and what I wanted to achieve. And having goals and aims to work towards is something that is pretty important there is no denying that but spending too much time thinking about what you're going to do can really take away from the things that are happening at that moment in time and what you are achieving. No matter how much you worry about something you can never change the outcome and it's such a waste of your mind and the time that we spend worrying could be spent doing some productive.
As an irrational worrier, you might already know that things I tend to worry about can be pretty irrational and when you're deep in the ocean of worry it can be really hard to see sense. And it's not easy to get out of the habit of getting through those irrational thoughts but when you do it feels incredible. I find the best thing to do with the irrational worries in my mind is saying them out loud because nothing takes the power out of something irrational like hearing it said out loud.
As much as I tend to worry about the future it's nothing compared to how much I worry about the past. Which is possibly an even worse way to use my mind. And the two are in the same in the fact that I can't change either of them because what's gone has gone and sadly time travel isn't a real thing yet. Worrying about the past won't change it, it won't change the outcome of it at all and it doesn't make us feeling any better about what has happened either. Moving on is difficult when you're worried that you might have done the wrong thing but learning and pushing forward is the only way to get through it.
WHAT I SHOULD BE DOING
If there is one thing I'm incredibly thankful for about the internet it's that it shows us on a daily basis that there is no right or wrong way to do things and whatever we do is the best decision we made at the time. We're all running our own race at our own pace because nothing in life ever happens to us at the same time. It doesn't matter if were ticking off those bog standard society expectations or not because in reality everyone is so consumed with their own lives that they're probably not spending that much time looking at what other people are doing. Unless your actions directly affect someone else it's pointless to worry about whether you should be doing them or not. Especially if it's something that you really feel passionately about and want to do but let the fear hold you back.
WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE DOING
It makes me feel like an awful heartless person when I say that I don't worry about what other people are doing but unless I directly know and care about them I try not to concern myself with other people's choices. And I, of course, care about the well-being of others whether they're a stranger or not it's awful to see people in pain and suffering. But becoming overly concerned about what people may or may not be doing and whether it aligns with morals and values is something I've just had to let go. Getting too caught up in how other people are living their lives is possibly the easiest way to stop living your own.
Have you stopped worrying about anything recently?