Hey, Lonely Girl

Loneliness and being alone is something that I've touched upon before as it's quite a big part of my life. 2015 has been another tough year when it comes to the subject of loneliness. I think it's something that many of us struggle with but don't want to admit it. It's something that we should speak about more so it's not so stigmatised and people don't feel so ashamed about feeling lonely. 

Something that has been on my mind a lot this year is feeling lonely in the blogging world. Which on the surface you wouldn't think would be an issue because it's such a thriving industry. Ever since I started working harder on From Roses I've had this strange niggling feeling that I don't fit in.  To this day, I still don't think I've found my 'blogging tribe' and I often wonder if I ever will. Whilst I like all the typical things that most bloggers do like marble, peonies, copper, macarons and of course makeup. That doesn't mean you're instantly going to feel a connection with others. Which made me wonder how many other people feel like this? There are a lot of things that aren't spoken about the in the blogging world and this is one of them. Even though we like to think that it doesn't matter about the numbers. They play a huge role in the way we are perceived by others, not only other bloggers but by readers to. 

It's so silly that we let a number on a screen deter us from striking up a conversation with people. I know from personal experience that when you're not the most confident soul in social situations. It can be so disheartening when you try and talk to somebody and they ignore you. I'm sure there are so many of us who would love to connect more with people that we think we would have something in common with. Something that goes further than us both liking a particular lipstick, I'm talking morals and values. Bloggers are often pitted against each other when it comes to their stats and it's incredibly sad. No one wants to feel like they are being boxed in as it can have a huge effect on your confidence. 

I've come to learn that you have to create your own blogging community and surround yourself by awesome people. Even if they aren't in the same genre as you it doesn't mean that you won't get along. I feel incredibly lucky to have such an awesome readership as I feel like you guys are the ones who have become my community.  By simply taking the time to reply to comments I've got to know the faces behind the icons. Even though there is still that slight reader and creator disconnect I feel like ultimately you've become my tribe. Admitting that I feel alone in the big blogging world is quite a terrifying thing to do but I feel a lot more at peace now.  It's ok not to slot in perfectly and automatically feel a connection to others in the same blogging genre.  I can guarantee that I won't be the only one who feels this way and it's important to open up a discussion about it. 

I'd love to know your thoughts on this

R x

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